With 60 days left until my expected due date of Rylee Alyson, I decided to start a blog. With as busy as my family is, I need a place that I can brag about my family, complain about my work and vent about all the unfairness in the world.
I’m going to start with why we are such busy people. Jordan and I wasted the last 6 months searching for a house and when we finally found one we could live with and signed a contract on, it came back denied…even after pre-approval. I guess we were at a borderline stage. Things happen for a reason and it really wasn’t a house we were “in love” with. It was just a house we settled for in order to get the $8000 tax credit. Although it sucks to lose the tax credit, this whole process has motivated me to set up a budget that has us debt free within a year (as long as my hubby can stick to it and quit finding new toys he wants to buy)! Wow, what a burden off our shoulders that would be!
Another thing keeping us so busy is that we are still in this constant battle with Shayne’s (Jordan’s 6 year old son) mother. She is really something else. She begs and begs the court to give her more child support and recently even went as far as putting herself on payroll at her company for minimum wage so that she could get more money! Yet, even with getting $700/month to help support Shayne, her goal is to have Jordan out of the picture when it comes to Shayne’s upbringing. Finally after 4 years and dozens of hurdles and loop holes, we are finally in a good spot in the situation. Jordan has done EVERYTHING that she has wanted to “re-unite” himself with Shayne. Shayne even asks when he’s going to get to visit Jordan about every other time they talk andĀ yet JulieĀ still doesn’t want to allow Jordan any time with Shayne. We found an attorney who is amazing. She knows what she is doing and she cares about us and the things we want. Everything finally seems as if it will fall into place, we just have to wait on the court to start signing orders. Apparently the courts in AZ are backed up because of losing soĀ much staff with the recession hitting hard there.
Jaydan. Wow. He is just over 2 1/2 years old and boy, does he have a mind of his own. Everyday I look at him and wonder where all the time went. I know every mother says this, but seriously, it feels like I was just holding my beautiful new baby in my arms. Jaydan has a temper like his mommy when things aren’t going quite like he wants them to. This is definitely a challenge for both Mommy and Daddy! On the other hand, he can be the sweetest boy on the earth! He still loves to cuddle and give hugs and kisses. Every once in a while he still comes to me and says, “Mommy, rock a baby”, meaning he wants me to rock him and sing “Rock-a-Bye Baby”. Jaydan loves his daddy more than I’ve ever seen any little boy love their daddy. He wants to go EVERYWHERE Jordan goes and he is always trying to help “fix daddy’s truck”. Everything Jordan does, Jaydan tries to mimick. Jaydan is also understanding that he is going to have a baby sister soon and I have no doubt in my mind that Rylee will be under his wing for the rest of their lifes. Just yesterday, he came and gently patted my belly and said “Hi Rylee”. š Jaydan is really starting to use his imagination and he proved that the other night on our way home from Jordan’s parents’ house. I heard him making a noise like he was eating something. I turned around and said “what are you doing?” He replied “Ice Cream mommy.” “Ohhh, no.” I told him. We had plenty to eat while we were at Lola’s house. He then tells me “No, mommy. Look, in my hand. Ice cream. Want some?” I told him sure and he then went to grab the icecream out of one hand with his other hand and handed it to me. I pretended to eat the ice cream that he so kindly shared with me and he asked me, “Good, Mommy?” He then started sharing his strawberries, apples, and bananas with both mommy and daddy. While this incident may seem so little to most of you, I was amazed at how well he was using his imagination!
My ultimate goal is to stay home with my kids and be a BIG part of their life and even part of their school activities when it comes to that time. Right now, with all the debt we’ve incurred and trying to save to buy a home, it’s just not pheasible. However working 8 a.m. to 6 p.m., Monday through Friday is also pretty excessive. I work for a really busy criminal defenseĀ law firmĀ and I absolutely love the work I do, but not enough to sacrifice the time I have with my family. I’m still waiting for an answer but hopefully after I come back from having the baby, I can work part time from the office and part time from home. If I could work Monday through Friday 8 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. and go to class Monday through Thursday 1:25-2:40, this would give me a considerable amount of extra time with my kids, to take them to the park, to teach them more than what they are learning when I’m not there and to have dinner ready at a reasonable time every night. However, if this plan doesn’t go through I know I won’t find the same somewhere else, so it would then be my goal to find a state job that allows me to work 730-430. While it’s still full time, I would still be able to have the extra time to have dinner on the table every night. I was letting myself get stressed out about not knowing what my plans would be, but I’ve been praying about it and I’m finally content with not knowing what the plan will be, but knowing that it will all work out for the best.
Lunch time is over and now my blog has to end! š
August 21, 2010
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